Black is the colour most people associate with funeral clothing. According to tradition, black symbolises the dust and ashes of the earth to which we return.
Families do sometimes ask mourners to wear clothing or accessories of a specific colour to the service. If there has been no such request from the family then it is best to choose a funeral outfit that features dark or neutral tones and is conservative, classic and understated in style.
At Logan, many people ask us what they should wear to a funeral. In response, we have created this guide to help you decide what to wear to a funeral, we have also created a video.
Funeral Outfits for Women
Keep it classic
Conservative funeral outfits, including a simple dress, or a skirt with a blouse, are perfect choices of respectful attire. Modest clothing that covers your shoulders and knees is best for a funeral. You can bring a wrap, jacket or blazer to wear during the service if you need an extra layer.
Blend in
It is usually best to dress in dark colours like black, grey, navy or taupe for a funeral. Try not to stand out and do your best to blend in with the other mourners. It is important to allow the focus of the day to be on the deceased, not your outfit!
Stay simple
Consider carefully the amount and style of jewellery and accessories you wear to a funeral. To avoid attracting too much attention, it might be best to keep it simple. Avoid anything too flashy and leave jangly bracelets at home.
Put comfort first
We know funerals can be emotionally challenging, but they can also be physically taxing. It is likely you will spend most of the day on your feet, especially if you are attending the graveside, and a wake, after the funeral service. Choose flat, or low-heeled shoes, and put your physical comfort first when attending a funeral.
Be prepared
Check the weather forecast and choose your outfit accordingly. Be prepared for seasonal weather by taking an umbrella and an extra jacket, or a hat and sunscreen. Remembering to pack extra tissues is always a good idea.
Additional Considerations for Women’s Funeral Wear
When selecting your funeral outfit, remember that modesty and respect are paramount. Consider the venue, weather, and cultural context of the service. Many funeral services in Australia include both indoor and outdoor components, so versatility in your outfit choice is essential.
Funeral Outfits for Men
Be classic
Funeral attire is typically classic in style and dark in colour. A navy, grey, or black business suit coupled with a white collared shirt and a subtle tie is perfect for funeral wear.
Be understated
Try to limit your accessories and maintain an understated style when attending a funeral. Cufflinks, neck chains, wrist bands and earrings should be understated. If you are not sure, it might be best to leave the bling at home!
Be groomed
As well as thinking carefully about the clothes you will be wearing, allow yourself time to arrive groomed in a manner that is neat and tidy. You might like to consider having your hair trimmed or shining your shoes. Small gestures like these are a way of showing your respect for people who are experiencing a difficult time.
Be ready
Don’t forget to check the weather forecast and wear clothing that is appropriate for the season. An umbrella and an extra jacket are helpful to have during the cooler months. Pack some extra tissues in case you need to comfort a distressed loved one or friend.
Additional Tips for Men’s Funeral Fashion
Remember that your appearance at a funeral reflects your respect for the deceased and their family. While maintaining all traditional guidelines, ensure your outfit is appropriate for the specific type of service you’re attending.
What Not To Wear At A Funeral
For women
Most funerals are formal occasions. The following clothing and accessories might draw attention to you, and are therefore best avoided:
- Fluorescent colours, bright prints
- Short skirts, tight or low-cut clothing
- Overpowering perfume, heavy make up
- Noisy high heels
- Jingling bracelets and distracting jewellery
For men
Your clothing choices for a funeral should reflect the respect you have for the occasion. It might be best to leave the following items at home:
- Peaked caps
- Silly ties
- Excessive aftershave
- Colourful T shirts
- Sports shoes
Important Considerations for All Funeral Guests
The key to appropriate funeral attire is showing respect while remaining comfortable enough to focus on supporting the bereaved. While following these guidelines, remember that different cultural and religious traditions may have specific requirements.
Cultural Funeral Differences in Australia
Australia’s multicultural society means you might attend funerals with different cultural traditions and expectations. In Queensland’s diverse communities, it’s important to be aware of and respect these differences. Some cultures might have specific requirements regarding clothing colours, head coverings, or other customs.
For traditional Aboriginal ceremonies, for instance, the protocols might differ significantly from Western traditions. Some communities might request wearing particular colours or items of cultural significance. Similarly, in many Asian cultures, white rather than black might be the traditional mourning colour.
If you’re attending a funeral service outside your own cultural background, don’t hesitate to ask the family or funeral organiser about appropriate attire. Showing respect through your willingness to understand and follow cultural protocols is always appreciated.
Final Thoughts on Funeral Dress Code
When choosing your funeral attire, remember that the focus should be on honoring the deceased and supporting their loved ones. Your clothing choices should never distract from this primary purpose.
There are many things to think about when you are preparing to attend a funeral. For further advice regarding expectations for funeral guests, please refer to our article explaining Frequently Asked Funeral Etiquette Questions.